So...I am nearly done reading Love the One You're With by Emily Giffin. It was recommended to me by a friend and I decided to try it. So far it has been really good, it does fall into the category of fluff fiction for me....but when I started reading it I wasn't so sure. A read that some women will find interesting as it addresses what happens when a happily married woman reconnects with an ex that really messed with her and things didn't quite end. It is interesting because I just had a conversation with a friend of mine about this very thing. I think most of my girlfriends have that ONE GUY, you know the one...things were unresolved, the chemistry was amazing, and it may or may not have been a healthy relationship. I think many of my married friends feel that if they admit to having one of these they don't love their life, their husband, their kids...but all of us have one...or had one. Tim, just an FYI, I love you!! So this book got me thinking about this...because you're curious about what might have been...does this make you unfaithful? Does this make you negate your current life? Is the curiosity okay, or should it just be buried, never to be brought up again?
The other thing it brought up is when a wife does something in a marriage because she feels like she can't say no...whether that is to move to another place, live in a house she doesn't like, be around friends she doesn't care for, not work when she wants, have a relationship with her husband's parents that she doesn't want...and the list goes on. The excuse that the character uses is she doesn't want her husband to feel guilty if she says she is unhappy with her situation...because she offered no resistance before, and now, she can't live with it anymore. I guess people don't just do this in marriage, but they do it with family, friendships and work relationships. So...I thought a little more about this novel...maybe it isn't fluff fiction....it brought up some great points. I can only hope that when women read it they see the message that it is sending and it helps them be more honest in ALL of their relationships!
And, as a side note...I moved to Washington because I WANTED to. I do not regret it! Je t'aime Tim!
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I read this one as well. One of my favorite things about Giffin is that her characters are not perfect. From best friends stealing fiances, to women leaving their husbands because they don't want to have babies, they are actually REAL characters. And usually she stills makes me like these "flawed" main characters, but I just didn't really like the main characater in this one. Something Borrowed is still her best book.
Now I'm reading the new Georgia and loving it! Ooo-er!
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